We all screw up. Yes even you Pollyanna, you're human too and we're not here for perfect. We're here to learn and transform and making mistakes is part of how we do it. Oh I know you wish you didn't. I know you'd like to squeaky clean, and you think it'd be a much better world if nobody screwed up. Do not, I repeat, do not go there, that sh*t's not real.
Making mistakes isn't the issue, it's what we do afterwards that can determine if our mistakes get made again, sometimes much worse than before. Maybe what you did was bad, oh well, no matter. It's done and it can't be undone. Beating yourself up is pointless; self punishment is never deserving.
Be sorry, but don't launch an all out emotional war on yourself.
I know you've disappointed yourself. Sister, I've let myself down in the past too many times to count. But shaming ourselves keeps us recreating the same old patterns, feelings, and mistakes. And ain't nobody got time for that.
Newsflash: nobody learns sh*t from the good stuff.
The tough stuff that teaches us to do and be better. It's the sh*t that creates the shine. It's through our mistakes that we grow into stellar human beings. Our worst stuff ups can be the catalyst for learning our greatest life lessons. Beating ourselves up blocks that learning process.
Let me give you an example.
What you might be missing is that your addiction masks a deep wound. Were you abandoned by one or both of your parents perhaps? Growing up were you treated harshly? Were your emotional needs ignored, or maybe you had a cold, distant parent? Or step parent even, who drummed into you that you were a useless, worthless, complaining little bitch that nobody would want?
And now you have this huge gaping hole you're trying to fill.
It's pointless beating yourself up for having an addiction then.
This was certainly my experience.
Beating ourselves up we miss is the message in our mistakes. That growth from the mistake is the vital part we need to pay attention to and not the mistake itself. This helps us discover what's really driving our behaviour and why we keep repeating mistakes we should've learned long ago.
Unconscious or not we're all responsible for our actions, but until we look deeper and see that our lives and our unconscious behaviours are mirroring old wounds and unresolved energies, chances are our mistakes will keep repeating.
That way's done.
We need to take responsibility in a more evolved, higher conscious way. A way that gets to the root of what’s really going on in our lives, so we can stop the suffering and unnecessary heartache we're drowning in and projecting unconsciously onto our fellow brothers and sisters.
Next newsflash; our stuff repeats until we heal.
So, we have to forgive ourselves and get work unearthing the unconscious parts of us that keep us tied to old mistake making patterns.
I decided long ago to be done with mine. I'd carried my own past life burdens and the burdens of my ancestors long enough. I paid a heavy price incarnating into abuse and violence so I could heal those energies and save my own son from carrying the burdens.
I made a agreement with myself, I decided never to beat myself up again.
It's time to stop treating ourselves so badly no matter what we've done. We're here to learn and we have a right to make mistakes. But we also have a responsibility to learn from them and heal. We have to stop shaming ourselves and embrace the life lessons our soul is leading us to. For ourselves and every generation after us, the burdens must end here.
It's time to rise up out of that.
Please, never forget that.
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